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Advice with some spice

February 1, 2013

Q: “Sooooo my boyfriend is graduating and I’m not, and we haven’t talked about what we’re doing after he graduates. How do I talk about it, and when’s a good time to bring it up?”

Paprika: First off, I want to welcome all you beautiful people back to campus! Now for the real reason why I am here, to give you the most spectacular advice you will ever receive in your young life! You need to bite the bullet and tell your man what you are thinking. It is always a good time to bring up problems in your relationship to try to figure out what is happening, before it is too late. Don’t be a procrastinating Polly and go for it girlfriend! What’s the worst that can happen? You two break up and then you have to find a new hottie hot hottie. Or you guys can live happily ever after and melt my cold heart… SO BEAUTIFUL 🙂

Sage: Dear Miss Communication, if the topic of life after graduation hasn’t come up yet, there’s probably a reason. Maybe your guy is scared of the real world (like most of us are) and hasn’t come to terms with the fact that he’s leaving safe, reliable Monmouth. Or maybe, he just hasn’t given it much thought at all. Either way, give it a little more time. If it doesn’t come up in conversation naturally, try hinting at what your plans for this summer are and find a way to get him to open up about what he’s planning on doing after graduation and ask (casually) where you fit in to that. Don’t put too much pressure on the situation or you’ll both end up stressed.

Q: “Valentine’s Day is coming up, and I have NO IDEA what to do. My boyfriend and I are pretty tight on cash. Any ideas for a cute, fun, inexpensive Valentine’s Day celebration??”

Paprika: If it isn’t the dreaded V-Day! Everyone always thinks that they need to do extravagant things with their lovers and be all romantic or lovey-dovey during this Hallmark holiday, but in reality you can bring the spice to your relationship on the cheap. I would first start by giving some lovin’ to Pinterest. You can find great and inexpensive things to do for two.  Once you get your Pinterest ideas flowin, you can always find some romcoms (romantic comedies) and get down to the romance. Remember that a little massage or compliment never hurt anyone! It will be a Valentine’s Day that you and your wallet will never forget!

Sage: Dear Hopeless Romantic, Valentine’s Day is just like any other day really, but with more pressure to be extra cute with your loved one. While I think every day is a good day to be cute with the person you love, there are some great ways to show each other you care on Valentine’s Day. First off, set aside some time for just you two. You’re both in college and both busy, so make a commitment to be free of all other obligations for the time you two spend together. From there, you could cook dinner together (go shopping together and look for deals on things you both like) and pick a movie and spend time with just each other. There’s also the option of adding a favorite candy as a gift just to let each other know you remembered and were thinking about them.

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